Hate those relationships where you lose yourself in another person, not in a good way either, the ones where you slowly become bitter and overweight just settling everyday, drifting further and further away from happiness, just slipping between the cracks of society and life, where most of us end up.
Bad relationships are dead-end jobs. All of the motivation and positive outlooks that you can ever have wont be enough to cover the small canvas a bad relationship offers. Bad relationships are bad foundations. Looking back to the dead-end job analogy, imagine my goal is to eventually make a million dollars(a million dollars being a figurative representation for happiness), but I have chosen employment at a fast food chain. Day in and day out I could do everything required of me to be the best fast food chain cashier in the nation, but still fall short of making anything near a seven-figure salary.
Relationships are about the potential the union and bond possesses and the potential you personally possess. When both you and another person(s) are genuine in efforts to reach goals, the stars align and the possibilities of reaching true happiness and beyond are unlimited. Bad relationships are employer/employee type relationships. They are “what do you have to offer” relationships(employer) in exchange for temporary benefit(monetary paycheck at the end of the week that will never allow you to reach your million dollar goal). Great relationships are joint endeavors that go beyond just being a job, they are the “career relationships.”
Too many people get into a relationship to fill a temporary void of being lonely, or looking lonely, this is the equivalent of taking a job just so you can pay bills. If you had the discipline to save money (build personal high-self esteem), you wouldn’t feel the need to jump at every job opportunity a.k.a. “that person you shouldn’t date but you do just because you feel like you can’t do better.”
Even though hell is dark, you still can’t see the stars at night.